Gender Roles in Gay Relationships

Straight people tend to get a little hung up on titles and roles in gay relationships. When it comes to gay sex, many people try to project heterosexual norms onto gay relationships. That is, one person is the top (aka the giver or the more dominant partner during sex), and one is the bottom (the receiver or the submissive partner).
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This question is actually asking who is the boss or head of household. The heterosexual person also assumes that the boss is naturally the top and the other person is the bottom. But the relationships between tops and bottoms is a lot more complicated than that. Sure, there are plenty of gay folks who almost exclusively bottom or top during sex, but there’s just as many who consider themselves versatile or switch (And hey, sometimes, just like with straight sex, there’s no penetration at all. Sex is fluid!)
To dig a little deeper, we asked gay men about topping and bottoming, the stereotypes associated with both and how they choose to use (or not!) the terms in their own lives.
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Though everyone is different, tops (or dominants) prefer penetrating and/or being in control in bed. A bottom (or submissive) is usually the receptive partner during penetrative sex or the individual who cedes control.
“The bottom’s duties is to explain how he likes to be penetrated and how much control he wants or doesn’t want,” said Joe Kort, a sex and relationship therapist who works with LGBTQ+ clients. “And the bottom also makes sure he’s prepped and ‘cleaned out’ before sex ― my pet peeve about LGBTQ now being shown in non-porn movies is that they make anal sex look seamless and it’s not!”
Prepping for anal sex might include douching, meaning...