The prostate is the second most pleasurable erogenous zone on a man’s body. Massaging it can produce orgasms that are similar to penile orgasms, only way more intense and felt through the entire body. There are reports of people having super orgasms, which are a stream of fast, continuous orgasms that cause the body to shudder. Not everyone ejaculates during a prostate orgasm, but some release a dribble of milky fluid from the urethra.
What is the Prostate
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located inside the rectum. The diagram shows that it is about 2 or 3 inches in and toward the stomach. Notice that there is flesh between the rectum and the prostate. The thickness of this flesh is different in all men This means the amount of pressure required to stimulate it is also different. When a man gets an erection the prostate actually tilts forward toward the rectum. This tilting makes a larger and more sensitive area of the prostate accessible through the rectum.
The urethra runs through the center of the prostate, from the bladder to the penis, letting urine flow out of the body.
The prostate secretes fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes this fluid into the urethra, and it’s expelled with sperm as semen.
Why Does The Prostate Feel Good
Like the penis, the prostate is a highly sensitive erogenous zone with millions of nerve endings. Rubbing it produces intense sensations and will make you climax. Milking prostate orgasms are generally much more intense than regular ones—some research suggests up to 400%
According to Emily Nagoski, A woman’s G-spot is sort of like a prostate. For every part that a man has, a woman has an equivalent part or similar part. It’s all the same stuff, just organized in a different way. The penis is the equivalent of the clitoris, the scrotum is similar to the outer labia, and so on. Well, the prostate is similar to the urethral sponge, a spongy body of tissue that wraps around the urethra inside a woman’s body. The prostate in men is known to have two functions: It swells up around the man’s urethra when he’s aroused, preventing him from urinating while he’s turned on. It also produces seminal fluid, the whitish liquid in which sperm travel. The urethral sponge, we therefore assume, has the equivalent functions in women. It does, in fact, swell with arousal, closing off the urethra.
How to Find the Prostate
Clean the Rectum
It’s important to have a bowel movement before you explore your rectum with your fingers or a prostate massager. There may be poop in there. We also recommend an anal douche, however we recognize the thought of this may be a little odd if you’re a newbie. Read this article on preparing the rectum for sexual activity.
Wash Your Hands
Please be sure that your hands are clean and your nails are clipped. The anus is full of soft sensitive skin, much like the mouth or vagina. Some people recommend using latex gloves. It’s a personal decision but keep in mind that it will change the way it feels.
On the other hand, if you’re feeling confident, we recommend one of our smaller prostate massagers designed for beginners. Do not confuse a prostate massager with a regular butt plug. They both go into the anus but one is designed to massage the prostate.
Best Position for Solo
If you’re a solo practitioner, lie down on your back with your knees bent. Using a pillow beneath your butt may help to get you in the best angle. Massage your penis to get an erection because this will cause your prostate to shift and expose a larger and more sensitive area to the wall of your rectum.
- The receiving partner lies face-down with their legs slightly apart.
- The giver sits next to them on the side most comfortable for them. The giver slides a pillow under their partner’s hips to help slightly raise their butt as they massage their prostate.
- The receiver gets down on all fours.
- The giver kneels behind them to reach their anus.
On the Side
- The receiver lies on their side and brings one leg up to their chest.
- The giver sits behind them to reach their anus.
Be Sure to Use Lube
Apply an ample amount of lube to your hand and your anus. We recommend using an anal lube applicator to ensure you get an adequate amount of lube in all the right places. This will ensure that the experience is both comfortable and pleasurable.
What to Look For
Put your hand between your legs and gently stick your index finger into your rectum and curve it up toward the penis. Stop when you get to the 2nd or 3rd knuckle. Once the finger is fully inserted, search for a rounded lump roughly two to four inches inside the rectum and up towards the root of the penis. You may or may not feel a ball, but you will touch something that makes you feel sort of like you have to pee or an unusual pressure. This is your prostate. Remember it’s different for all men based on the size of the prostate and the amount of flesh between the prostate and the rectum.
How to Massage Prostate Internally
With Your Fingers
- Come hither. Gently insert your lubed index finger into the anus and curl your finger upward in a “come hither” motion toward the belly button. Keep repeating the motion while gradually increasing your speed as the pleasure builds.
- Doorbell. Rest the pad of your finger against the outside of the prostate and gently press as you would to ring a doorbell. Mix it up by using different pressure or holding the press for shorter and longer intervals to find what works. You can use the doorbell technique when penetrating the anus, too.
- Circling. Use the pad of your finger and run it all around the prostate, circling your way around the entire perimeter of the gland. Change up the pressure and speed and continue with the combo that feels best, allowing the pleasure to build up.
- Simulated vibration. Any move that feels good can be sped up to the point of feeling like a vibrator. This can be a little hard on the wrist after a while, so it’s best to save this kind of speed for when orgasm is close.
With a Massager or Anal Sex Toy
If you’re playing with gay sex toys, you can really mix it up by playing with the different vibration settings, as well as pressure and depth.
- Pressure. Controlling pressure when using a toy is easier, especially when you’re playing solo. Try pressing the toy against the prostate using more or less pressure till you find your sweet spot.
- Depth. Depth is another area where toys win out since reaching can make it hard to go deep, if that’s what you crave. Try different sized anal toys or get a longer one that you can insert as deep as your bottom desires.
- Vibrations. You can buy prostate massagers that offer up multiple speed and pulse settings. Play with the different settings to find your preference. Increase the vibration as you get closer to orgasm.
- Sensation. Some prostate massagers have an attached external stimulator to give your perineum some sweet lovin’ while the other end penetrates. Who doesn’t love a hard worker?
How to Massage Prostate Externally
If you’re not comfortable with the idea of putting anything up your butt, then you can stimulate your prostate with an external massager or wand style vibrator. They allow you to externally stimulate your perineum without any insertion.
The feeling won’t be as intense as an internal massage, but it might be a good way to see what all the fuss is about and to explore some of your body’s other erotic zones.
Grab your favorite lube or massage oil that’s safe for use around the genitals, and slather your perineum with a healthy dose. Next, lube up your penis and around your anus as well if you’d like to bring extra stimulation into the mix. If you’ve got a partner, consider inviting them too. It’ll be twice as fun, and some of the massage technique angles work better from a partner’s opposing perspective.
Using the soft pads of your pointer and index fingers, gently press into the fleshy tissue of the taint. You can also take those same fingers, curl them up, and use your knuckles. Press inward with a slight upward angle, like you’re trying to reach between the rectum and bladder from the outside. The prostate feels a bit harder than the surrounding tissue, and when you reach it, your body might mistakenly tell you that you’ve got to pee.
Keep massaging with a firm but gentle motion until the need for a bathroom break begins to feel like pleasure. This is obviously a great time to stroke your penis, fondle your balls or run a lubed finger around the outside (rim) of your butt hole. Whatever normally gets there — do that!
Accelerate the Pleasure Pace
Experiment with different massage rhythms with your hands, or bring in a buzzy toy to change up the pace. You can use a vibrating butt plug to press into your perineum, adding tantalizing vibrations and multiple vibe modes to your P-spot session. For broader stimulation that rumbles your testicles and booty hole, a wand vibrator works wonders.
If it’s your first time experiencing an external prostate massage, you might need to stroke your penis to help push you over the edge. As you learn the ropes, challenge yourself to orgasm without including penis stimulation, and then amaze your partner while showing off the magic of a hands-free climax.
During penis-centric partner sex, popping one off too early can be a buzzkill, but not with prostate play. If all that prostate massage action brings you to a quick climax, just shrug it off and start all over again.
In addition to the prostate, there are a few other lesser-known spots you can combine for extra sensation.
The glans penis, which is fancy talk for the head, is packed with nerve endings that feel good when touched, licked, or sucked. Put that lube and free hand to good use, and give them an extra treat while playing with their prostate. Take it further by running your wet lips over the head and taking it in your mouth for some swirling tongue action.
Might as well show the frenulum some love while you’re in the area, too. That’s the ridge of skin on the underside of the penis that connects the shaft to the head. The frenulum is crazy sensitive. It has the power to trigger orgasms like no other part of the penis. Flick it lightly with your tongue while also playing with their P-spot, or let your thumb graze it while getting handy with their shaft.
Even if you take the internal route to get to the P-spot, that doesn’t mean you should forget about the perineum. Let your finger or a vibrating sex toy work its magic on this landing strip of pleasure.
A tongue on the perineum is a great spot for testing the waters or sending them over the edge while your fingers or a toy are in P-town.
Gently massage the balls and prostate at the same time for double the fun. They want more? Run your finger gently up and down the seam that runs down the center of the scrotum. That seam is called the scrotal raphe. It’s your secret weapon for mind-blowing hand jobs and blow jobs.
The Bottom Line
The male G-spot may not be the official term for the prostate, but it has the potential to live up to the hype with a little practice. Take things slow, communicate, and use lots of lube to find and master the prostate.
Health Concerns of Prostate Massaging
Prostate play can be a fun way to enhance your sex life, whether alone or with a partner. It may also offer relief to people with BPH (although there is very little evidence to substantiate this) but should only be used after discussion with your doctor and as part of routine prostate health screenings.
Side Effects and Risks
Rectal soreness is the most common side effect of prostate massage, occurring in 8.3% of the participants of the above-listed study. But, this is not the only concern related to prostate massage.
The tissues lining the prostate and rectum are very delicate and vulnerable to cuts, tears, and abrasions. Massaging the prostate too vigorously can easily lead to soreness and bleeding, the latter of which may increase the risk of bacterial infection, and it may aggravate hemorrhoids.
Even among doctors, manual prostate massage is discouraged in men with acute bacterial prostatitis as it not only increases inflammation but may promote the spread of bacteria to the urethra and other parts of the urinary tract and into the bloodstream.
While it should be avoided in acute prostatitis, some small studies have shown benefit with physicians employing this along with antibiotics in the treatment of chronic prostatitis.
Similarly, prostate massage should be avoided in men suspected of having prostate cancer. Manually rubbing a tumor can dislodge cells and inadvertently promote the spread of cancer to nearby tissues.
There are some studies showing that prostate massage prior to some tests for prostate cancer can increase the sensitivity of the test (make it more likely the cancer will be picked up). The PSA should not be tested right after this procedure as it could falsely elevate it.
For this reason, a prostate self-exam is not recommended if you believe you have cancer, nor should a self-exam take the place of an exam by a physician. Instead, the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force recommends that men 55 to 69 discuss prostate cancer screening with their doctor using a blood test known as the prostate-specific antigen (PSA).
Even if cancer is not an issue, care needs to be taken to avoid injuring the prostate. The thin, pliable membrane covering the prostate, called the prostatic plexus, is rich in nerves that service the sponge-like corpora cavernosa of the penis.
Prostate massaging orgasms are the holy grail of pleasure for men. The prostate happens to be male equivalent of a woman’s G-Spot—for that reason some people refer to it as the P-Spot. Stimulating the prostate either by just massaging (also called prostate milking) or in combination with masturbation (prostate masturbation) or full-on sex—can give guys intense, longer-lasting, bone-shaking orgasms.
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