What is Rimming and How to Do it Correctly

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Rimming is a major sexual activity that provides intense anal sensations and can be incorporated into any sexual relationship. You can not climax from rimming alone so it’s excellent foreplay and a way to get the bottom relaxed for the next activity.

Rimming is one of those things that you either enjoy or you don’t. You’ll know this right around the time you recognize your body as an organ of pleasure. In other words, like all your other sexual urges, you’ll get an urge to spread someone’s cheeks and stick your tongue in his ass. It’s sort of like sucking a penis. Either you have the urge or you don’t. 

We haven’t conducted a survey or anything, but I’m confident in saying that men who like giving or receiving rim jobs are in the minority.  You may not like the idea of putting a booty hole in your mouth, for understandable reasons. As a receiver, you may be uncomfortable because you think it’s nasty or that you can’t get your booty clean enough to let someone go back there. These are legitimate reasons, but sexual urges don’t care about reasons. Urges need to be fed.

If you’re in the lucky minority of men who enjoy rimming, you know that a warm tongue against the anus can produce amazing sensations that are very unique and can not be replicated by a finger or a toy. It’s a great way to get the party started and it will make you feel more intimate and connected.

Whether you’re doing it as a favor for your partner or because you really enjoy it, here are some tips on how to do it and get the most enjoyment from it.

What is Rimming?

Rimming involves stimulating someone’s anus, sphincter and perineum with your mouth. The anus is a sensitive organ with millions of nerve endings. A warm tongue licking and sucking and caressing the anus will make the receiver feel good. The giver will also feel good because like the anus, like the mouth has millions of nerve endings. Your tongue and lips will actually feel delightful slipping over the soft textured surface of the anus. 

Rimming Techniques

How to Prepare for a Rim Job

Once you and your partner have decided that rimming is something you’d like to try, it’s time to prepare. At a minimum, I would recommend a bath or shower to clean the outside of your anus and the area around it, like your crack and balls.

If you’re serious about being clean, you may use an anal douche.  It’s pretty obvious why this is important to the person performing tongue play (taste, smell, bacteria, sweat), but it’s also really important for the receiver. It’s understandable that a lot of people have concerns about cleanliness in that area due to its ‘day job’ so knowing that you’ve given yourself a thorough cleaning will help you relax.

Anal Douching

Most guys douche. It is simply more hygenic to douche before mouth-to-ass sex, as there are some health risks associated with rimming. Douching  flushes and releases water to initiate a bowel movement.

On the plus side, anal douching:

  • can clear your anal cavity of feces and bacteria
  • may help you feel more confident in your bum situation, improving your enjoyment
  • is a source of erotic pleasure for some people

But on the downside:

  • not everyone enjoys them and some find them uncomfortable
  • there’s a risk of tears and infection
  • frequent douching can disrupt the rectum, bowels, and digestive tract and interfere with your elimination rhythm

Give Yourself Some Time After Douching

Water may be trapped up there, and once you’re lying down on your back or stomach, it may come out. That’s why many people lie on their left sides: to release trapped douche water. You don’t want to do that accidentally when his mouth is on your hole.

Some Men Like The Natural Smell

Keep in mind that there are many, many guys out there who love the taste and smell of natural, undouched, aromatic ass and would rather bend you over when you’re sweaty after the gym and go to town, and simply rinse his mouth out with Listerine after. And if you ever have the pleasure of dating someone who enjoys (and prefers) dirty butts, congrats — you never have to worry about douching again.

Hair Removal

There are pros and cons to shaving or waxing the hair in your butt crack that are worth considering.

Pros to Consider:

All the feels. Clearing the area opens the way for all the sensation. The less there is between the rimmie’s butt and the rimmer’s tongue, the more intense the stimulation.

Cleanliness. It’s not that you can’t get a good clean if there’s hair around your anus, but not having any certainly makes it easier. Bits of toilet paper, towel fluff, and even poo can stick to hairs.

One less hang-up. Worrying about how your anus looks or whether or not it’s going to be a turnoff for your partner can hinder your enjoyment. If it’s one of your hang-ups, getting rid of it can help you relax and enjoy the experience.

Cons to Consider:

Skin irritation. There’s a risk of skin irritation with any hair removal method, especially in such a delicate area that may not have had any contact with a razor or wax before. If you’re going to remove the hair, give your skin time to heal before you get rimmed.

Ingrown hairs. Regrowth can be a literal pain in the butt. As the hair grows back, you may have to contend with some itching and prickling, and maybe even painful ingrown hairs. It’s only temporary, but still worth considering.

Risk of infection. This goes hand-in-hand with the two points above. Anytime you expose your skin to irritation or injury, there’s a risk of infection. If you decide to go ahead with hair removal, do it carefully and keep the area clean.

Best Rimming Position?

Which position you play in should be comfortable and offer easy access to all the areas you want to play with / have played with. Though you can definitely experiment to find positions that work for you, a modified version of doggie style — or “four on the floor” — is the most obvious choice. To do this, have the person receiving the rimming get down on the floor or bed on all fours.

If you’re performing the rimming, you should:

  • Kneel behind your partner.
  • Use your hands to guide your partner’s butt to the height that provides the best angle.
  • Use your hands to spread your partner’s cheeks.

You could also try having the recipient:

  • Stand in front of a table, chair, or bed and bend over it while you kneel behind.
  • Stand and bend at the waist, and hold their ankles while you kneel or crouch behind.
  • Lie on their back with two pillows under their hips and their knees pulled toward their chest, while you kneel between their thighs.

How to Get Started

Remember: sex is about the journey, not the destination. When it comes to rimming, I recommend roaming, rather than setting your crack-nav to “quickest route”. Don’t make a beeline for the B-hole. Explore your partner’s body as much as you can in other ways to excite their mind and awaken their skin before you get to their ring of pleasure

Start with the furthest points and work your way in towards the bullseye. You could use a lickable massage oil or lubricant and begin massaging, squeezing, licking and kissing their butt cheeks and inner thighs.

When you’re ready to start getting closer to your aim, begin gently parting their cheeks so you can see their anus. For now, resist the temptation to touch it. You simply want to tease the area, as close as you can, with your fingers, lips and mouth, so they’re pretty much begging for it when you’re done.

A great tip to stimulate their actual anus without physical contact is to use your breath. Breathe warm air over their bottom as a final tease before you make contact. When you’ve decided they’ve had enough teasing torture, then it’s time.

What Do You Do With Your Tongue?

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Aggressive rimmers will go straight for the hole and just lick continuously in the same motion over and over, gradually pushing the tongue deeper and deeper in. While this can feel good, it gets boring after a while and can actually start to wear on the hole. Saliva dries out your skin, and the hole is the last place you want to dry out, especially if rimming is foreplay for sex.

Soft, light licks and kisses of the inner thighs and perineum are a great start and sure to get them primed for action. When you’re ready to move to the anus, you can’t go wrong by using your tongue much in the same manner you would to lick an ice cream cone.

Here are some tips:

  • Use long, slow licks with your tongue flat against your partner’s anus.
  • Experiment with your tongue, alternating between stiffening and relaxing it.
  • Try different directions, such as up and down and side to side.
  • Point your tongue and push it against their anus, using enough pressure to gently penetrate.

What To Do With Your Teeth?

Aside from some tiny nibbles on the cheek, most people would prefer you refrain from having your teeth come into direct contact with their butt.

Here’s what to do:

  • Make sure they’re open to a little toothy action — communication and consent are a must!
  • Run your front teeth lightly along the backs of their thighs and cheeks, barely grazing the skin.
  • Try light, gentle nibbles, sticking to the butt cheeks where there’s enough flesh to take it.

How to Use Your Breath?

Hot breath against the skin can be a real turn-on and is especially stimulating against the inner thighs and bottom. Making a small “o” with your lips and blowing on an asshole (as you would a birthday candle) can make your partner moan. This is usually a cooler breath. Alternately, as when you breathe on someone’s neck, an open mouthed gush of warm breath will moisten the hole and add a tingling feeling of expectation — making them ready for your tongue plunge. Pause, draw it out, and dive.

What To Do With Your Hands?

Your hands can work some real magic when it comes to pleasuring your partner, so be sure to use them.

Use your hands to:

Don’t Forget the Perineum

If you’re rimming a man, don’t forget the space around the butt — including the perineum (the space between his anus and testicles). It’s an extremely sensitive area and feels amazing when licked, sucked and massaged.

Pay Attention to Your Partner’s Body Language

For your first time, I recommend taking it slow, experimenting with a few moves and seeing how your partner reacts. Keep an eye and ear on their body language, breathing and vocal response. If your partner is a quiet one, and you’re not sure how things are going or you like clear communication in the bedroom, you can absolutely check-in with your partner and ask what they like best. Ask if they like it, want to try something different or want you to keep doing what you’re doing.

When You Should Wait

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As enjoyable as rimming can be, there are times when skipping the B-side is probably best. You’ll want to shelf the act if you or your partner is dealing with any of the following:

  • gas
  • diarrhea
  • constipation
  • bleeding
  • open sores, including hemorrhoids
  • digestive infections
  • cold sores

Try not to let embarrassment keep you from being honest and open with your partner about why you might need to pass on some rimming fun.

Health Risk

No risk of getting HIV

With rimming, you don’t run any risk in terms of HIV. After all, for the transmission of HIV there needs to be contact with blood or sperm.

Risks in terms of STIs

  • If you rim someone or get rimmed yourself, you run a risk of getting syphilis, gonorrhea or chlamydia from someone’s anus, mouth or throat. 
  • Never rim someone or let someone rim you if one of you has a cold sore, since that will greatly increase the risk of transmitting herpes.
  • If you rim someone, you run a risk of getting Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B and shigella.

Reduce the risk:

  • Get vaccinated against both Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B.
  • When you go for an STI test, always get your mouth and anus tested for STIs.
  • Use a dental dam or a cut-open condom as a protective layer between mouth and anus

Summary

Rimming is a major sexual activity that provides intense sensations and can be incorporated into any sexual relationship. You can not climax from rimming alone so it’s excellent foreplay and a way to get the bottom relaxed for the next activity. It’s important to talk to your partner about to make sure that both of you enjoy it. 

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